Divorce rate in the world is stupefying! What are your thoughts about that? Is it that there was no mutual understanding or love amongst couples? Marriage can only be beautiful if you work as a team. The word of God states that;
“a man will leave the Father’s house and get married to a woman and they will become one flesh”
Basics of Marriage
Marriage is beautiful like a rose, But, there is no way to hold on to something beautiful; not without consequences. Which is the reason why roses have thorns. Oh yes! You must have heard of the saying from our parents or experienced couples that; ”marriage is not a bed of roses”.
MEANING OF MARRIAGE
It’s an institution between two consenting adults; who chooses to love each other, even on those days they struggle to like each other.
Marriage has different meaning; depends on your perception.
It’s an institution is like a house. whereby, a light bulb burns out, you don’t go and buy a new house right? you fix the light bulb either.
A good marriage requires time and effort; you have to work for it, cultivate and nurture it to grow. Then learn to forgive and let go of any resentments and there must be loyalty between you.
Remember that; the devil love to see you quite, and marriages to crash; phew! Just like that? Decide that your marriage is worth fighting for; on your knees.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side. It’s green where you water it.
I want you to understand that for your marriage to work, you both has to build it; , and in other to that, you must to be ready to;
- Fight for your marriage on your knees (be prayerful).
- Confront your spouse and resolve your differences.
- Respect your boundaries.
- Leave the scene, if any of gets furious.
- Do hard things for God’s glory and the healthiness of your marriage.
- Never go to bed angry.
- Eat together, play and laugh together.
- Bath together.
- Create time for yourselves.
- Understand that quarrels are normal;
- Have sex often.
Sounds absurd and seems difficult hun? You can do it!
“Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. And people put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage. You have to infuse it into your marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving,loving, serving,praising and keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in,the box will be empty.”
If you want to savage your home, you ought to understand that; Marriage is not 50-50, same as divorce. Marriage has to be 100-100. It is definitely not dividing everything into half either; love is not in marriage, love in people. That’s has decided to stay together forever, no matter what.
However, couples that are “meant to be” are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart but come out stronger than they were before.
if a man expects a woman to be an angel in his life, he must first create heaven for her; Angels don’t live in hell..
Please if you are experiencing any form of domestic violence or abuse or occasional adultery. Please speak out! No matter how much sacrifices you feel that you have invested in your relationship/marriage. Your life first! You deserve respect and true happiness...
It really takes two to tango.
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